IT'S NOT *MY* FAULT IF A GUY LUSTS!

 

I must respond.  I've read countless women's posts online about how they are not responsible for men or boys' sexual temptations.  I am shocked at some of their angry, hateful defenses.  Here are a few examples:

* "I have the right to wear what I want.  It is the guy's fault if he lusts!"

* "It's not my problem if a guy has lust issues!  Clothes don't make someone lust, anyway."

* "Most guys don't have a problem with tight pants or short shorts - only perverts - and that is their own twisted mind!"

* "Nobody is responsible for someone else's weakness.  What should I wear...a burka?!"

These are nice versions of what I've read.  And they are from self-proclaiming Christian women.

  I will fill this page with my own response.  Really, it all boils down to this one question:

 Is it possible for one human being to tempt, entice, or persuade another human being?  To answer: "Yes!" Can any thinking person really answer 'No'? 

Let's just let scripture speak for itself:


1 Corinthians 7:2
But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband...

(Temptation is a fact. It is not possible to have temptation without something being the tempter.)


1 Corinthians 10:13

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man.  

(Temptations are 'Common to man', not uncommon.)
 

1 Corinthians 8:13                     
Therefore, if food makes my brother stumble, I will never eat meat, lest I make my brother stumble.

(Let's look at the wording: 'makes my brother stumble' and 'I make my brother stumble'. Hard to argue with that.  Yes, we can cause another person to stumble/sin by our choices!)


Romans 14:13                
Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother.

(We can 'put' a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of another person.)


Luke 17:1-4                
And he said to his disciples, “Temptations to sin are sure to come, but woe to the one through whom they come! It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were cast into the sea than that he should cause one of these little ones to sin.

(Very clear here. Temptations come 'through' another here. The word 'cause' can't possibly be misconstrued - it means 'cause'.)


 Mark 9:38-50                    
“Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea. ...

('Cause' to sin.  Hmmmm. I just don't see any way around it. It's plain.)


Matthew 18:6-9                    
But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea. “Woe to the world for temptations to sin! For it is necessary that temptations come, but woe to the one by whom the temptation comes!

(Same thing here again. Here the context starts out as one who causes a child to sin, but it has a greater meaning than just a child, as seen at the end of the verse where it speaks of the world, not just children.)


1 Corinthians 8:9                    
But take care that this right of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak.

(We have the right to be naked in the shower or wear whatever we please in front of our husband or alone in our room, but when it comes to other people...we need to be sensitive. Here it is talking about the brother who may still be sensitive (weak)in their conscience in regards to food or festivals, but still we see that it is another classic case of one person's actions 'becoming' a stumbling block to another Christian.)
 

Numbers 14:36-37 - And the   men, which Moses sent to search the land, who returned, and made all the congregation to murmur against him, by bringing up a slander upon the land...

(Wow. This is pretty damaging.  'Made' all the congregation to murmur?  It seems odd when put this way. How can we 'make' someone sin? Yet this is what it says. How often have I read things like: "Well, it's HIS fault if he lusts, I'm not to blame. It's not like I can make someone else sin." This is pretty convicting to say the least. It should  silence many excuses. The murmurers were held responsible for their complaining all right, yet so were the men who searched out the land and came back with the bad report.)


Of course there are many other examples in scripture that show one person causing or tempting another to sin, but I won't list them all at this time. It's always good to search on your own as well.